In my late 30’s/early 40’s, as a dedicated oncology nurse, I faced the daily challenges of healthcare. At home, my family consisted of two children, a loving husband, and my aging parents, who needed my assistance due to my father's failing health. My heart was perpetually pulled in multiple directions. The weight of nursing responsibilities, patient needs, and family obligations pressed upon me, creating a constant worry. How was I supposed to be the caring nurse, the loving mother, the responsible daughter, and the devoted wife, and not let anyone see how hard this was for me?

Wearing the mask of the super nurse, while my marriage hung by a thread, I juggled my roles but felt incredibly alone. One day, overwhelmed, I declared a six-month sabbatical from marriage, motherhood, and daughterhood – embarking on what I called “Mission Lil”. Despite the initial shock, my family supported my decision, allowing me the space I needed to focus on myself.

During this self-imposed retreat, I moved into a separate space, making no commitments to anyone but myself. With clarity on what I did not want, but uncertain about my true desires, my journey of self-discovery began.

The biggest revelation came within the first hour – I realized I was fully responsible for my own happiness. No longer blaming external factors, I had been the Queen of Blame, and now, in solitude, I defeated my mindset. This profound realization shifted my perspective entirely.

Today, equipped with years of experience and practiced tools, I guide women in overcoming self-limitations and reclaiming their lives. They don’t need a lengthy sabbatical; together, we follow a focused process, and they find support in their quest for personal transformation.They trust in me, and together we navigate the journey to their personal life of joy. They are never alone.

Liliane de Vries - Certified Professional Coach and Relationship Coach in Canada, working with women and nurses around the globe from Canada, the USA, to Europe and South Africa, supporting thousands of women to reclaim their life.

Together we are stronger, knowledge is power, and laughter is the best medicine for the soul.